Friendships08/05/2013 - Author: Natasha Phillips
Many times when a person grows up in a large family, their best friends are their siblings. When you grow up in a large family and are home-schooled, your only friends are your siblings!!! (well mostly, except for a ‘few’ other homeschooling families.) Growing up you think nothing is ever going to change, then you enter the real world as an 18-20 year old adult and everything changes. All of a sudden everyone in the world, at least your world, is your best friend. You start making plans with these people and honestly believe that they will be in your life until the day you die. Sometimes you listen to their advice and opinions over the people who have known you the longest. Many times you hurt the true friends in your life and often many years will pass before you talk to those ‘true’ friends again. Eventually all your new best friends start falling by the wayside. They never call, plans to get together are never made and one can become jaded on the process of making friends and keeping them. Well that was me anyway. It was so hard for me to put myself out there to enjoy new people and make friends that are real and honest. Sometimes, even now I meet people who I think are
always going to be there, but then something like politics for example, end up as a barrier. I honestly don’t know why. I feel like even if people have different opinions it shouldn’t be a big deal. But then again I already wrote about that in my post ‘ Political Ramblings‘. Recently though I have been blessed to have some pretty amazing people come into my life. People I honestly think are going to be there for a very long time. Some have children and some do not. The mothers I have met since not working have become incredible friends to me and I am looking forward to the many years of child rearing that we will enjoy together.
This last weekend we had the opportunity to spend time with some such friends. They are not from
this area, I actually met them while working at the brewery and by chance the next day ran into them again with Matt. We hit it off immediately, the guys might as well be brothers, they have three boys who are just a hoot! We only get to see them 2-3 times a year but the time is always precious, encouraging, relaxing and filled with laughter, good food, and a great time!
We journeyed their direction this time and found ourselves, for a bit, at Pere Marquette Illinois state park. For those of you who live in Hermann and are looking for an affordable, nice family vacation I recommend checking this place out. Grafton is nearby and full of neat little shops, while the park has great hiking trails, a nice camping ground, lodge, restaurant and river access.
It was a great park and I am sure much more is offered but we didn’t stay there just went there to hike. The rest of the time was spent at their house playing ball, swinging, eating dirt and so on.
The older I get the more I appreciate friendships. I still do have friends outside my family that stem from a very early age. We may not talk often or get to see each other much, but I know if need anything they are the ones to call on. I have my family, the greatest friendships I know have been forged with my siblings. Then there are the new friendships that are being built to last but in a much different way. These are the friendships of learning, adventure and excitement. I encourage everyone to look around them at the people they have in their life. Who are they? Are the friends, companions, people you trust? If you aren’t getting out there and putting yourself in a place to meet people and make friends, well you are missing out! Not everyone that comes into your life will stay and that is okay. I have come to appreciate the memories I get to build with even the friends that don’t stay around long, but if you aren’t getting out there you will not meet those people who you can grow with. Have fun!! Meet new people!! The yellow brick road awaits. 🙂